Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Planning April: Gospel Study with My Four Year Old

I try to do a preschool devotional (see below) about three days a week. He may get something out of only doing it once or twice, but after having done the same story three times in a row, I sometimes have the joy of hearing him "output" some of what I've been teaching him.
The quotes below are from my ABC scripture list: S is for Son, T is for temple, etc.
Easter is in late April this year, so I've chosen one of my favorite Easter hymns and one song from the  (April) 2019 Primary Singing Time.

Week 1 General Conference/Peter's Testimony

Scripture Quote: "This is my Beloved Son," Matthew 3:17, JS History 1:17
Song: "Christ the Lord Is Risen Today," by Charles Wesley, Hymns 200
Bible Story: New Testament Stories, Chapters 32 and 33 (paraphrased)

Optional Videos: New Testament, Chapter 32 and 33

Week 2 Easter

Scripture Quote: "The temple of God is holy," 1 Corinthians 3:17
Song: "Christ the Lord Is Risen Today," by Charles Wesley, Hymns 200
Bible Story: "Jesus Gave Us the Sacrament," by Kim Webb Reid (this is an Easter story)

Week 3 Easter

Scripture Quote: "Under the direction of His Father, He was the creator of the earth," "The Living Christ"
Song: "Faith," Children's Songbook 96-97
Bible Story: "The Story of Easter," by Kim Webb Reid (this is from the April 2019 Friend)

Week 4 Good Samaritan

Scripture Quote: "Visit the fatherless and widows," James 1:27
Song: "Faith," Children's Songbook 96-97
Bible Story: "Jesus Teaches How to Treat Others," by Diane L. Mangum

Thursday, February 7, 2019

Planning February: Gospel Study with My Four-Year Old

I want my four year old to know more of the songs sung at church, and be familiar with a dozen or so scripture stories. Sure, I know he's heard of Noah's ark and that Daniel went in the lion's den before, but scattered references that occurred a year ago aren't that useful right now.
This month we are starting at the beginning of "his Bible," which is a binder into which I organize the scripture studies that appear in The Friend magazine each month. I have a full twelve stories from the Old Testament. The plan is to focus on one story each week, and read it once a day for about three weekdays. I'm hoping by the third reading to prompt him to tell me parts of the story. 
One day a week we will read selections from that month's Friend magazine (including New Testament stories to go with the Come, Follow Me curriculum). 
Each day we do this gospel study (every weekday except the day we do a preschool co-op), we will also practice a song and his letter-of-the-week scripture. We've been doing the scripture verses since September, so we're starting February with letter "O." I like to open up my physical scriptures when we practice the verse, so he can make the connection more easily. "The Bible says, 'Obey your parents.' Can you say that now?"
I chose two songs from the list for Primary Singing Time February 2019: "Baptism," and "He Sent His Son."
I hope you find the links useful. They go directly to lds.org and have everything you need. 



Week 1
Scripture Quote: "Obey your parents," Ephesians 6:1
Song: "Baptism," by Mabel Jones Gabbott (First line: "Jesus came to John the Baptist")
Bible Story: "The Creation," retold by Kim Webb Reid and illustrated by Apryl Stott
Read The Friend, including the story "Jesus Was Baptized"

Week 2
Scripture Quote: "Pray to thy Father," Matthew 6:6
Song: "Baptism," by Mabel Jones Gabbott
Bible Story: "Adam and Eve," retold by Kim Webb Reid and illustrated by Apryl Stott
Read The Friend

Week 3
Scripture Quote: "The whole earth is at rest, and is quiet," Isaiah 14:7
Song: "He Sent His Son,"by Mabel Jones Gabbott, Music by Michael Finlinson Moody
Bible Story: "Noah," retold by Kim Webb Reid and illustrated by Apryl Stott
Read The Friend

Week 4
Scripture Quote: "Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy," Exodus 20:8 (explain that when something is "holy" it is special to Heavenly Father)
Song: "He Sent His Son," Lyrics by Mabel Jones Gabbott, Music by Michael Finlinson Moody
Bible Story: "Joseph Trusted God," retold by Kim Webb Reid and Apryl Stott
Read The Friend


Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Simple Success with a Come, Follow Me Family Home Evening

Sunday afternoon, my husband and I each read John 1 for our personal study.*
I also spent a long time online studying suggestions from other families and considering pre-made printables.
When I finished the day, the "Family Home Evening" box in my planner was still blank.
On Monday there was a sewing project to finish, lots of laundry, plus some MLK Day sales to take advantage of. When dinner time rolled around, I still hadn't printed anything cute. It was my daughter's turn to help with treat, and she was busy making cake mix cookies (to be filled with lemon pie filling). That was pretty much it. We were going to have to "wing it."
So we called the whole family in, and reminded them of expectations (stay sitting in this room until we're done; no electronics use unless you're looking up scriptures) and began. Without a "plan."
Well, glancing at the manual, we decided to start by explaining who John was, and what happened in this week's chapter. Having already (recently) read it ourselves, my husband and I felt comfortable with the material. This time, instead of reading that section straight out of the manual (which I had also familiarized myself with), my husband and I started to explain who John was in our own words. He would say something, and then I would say something. We encouraged questions or relevant comments from the children.
It felt very natural, like a dialogue.
Then everyone in the family helped us read John 1 out loud.**
We knelt for prayers.
Then my daughter served the treat she had made.
That was it. A simple, unadorned attempt to teach our family the gospel. The funny thing was: it felt like one of our most successful family nights.

It reminded my of something I had hear Elder Bednar say some time ago. After describing an unstructured family home evening based on gospel discussion and spontaneous sharing of testimonies, he said, "The best family home evenings are not necessarily the product of preprepared, purchased, or downloaded packets of outlines and visual aids."
"Watching with All Perseverance," Elder David A. Bednar, April 2010

There are many wonderful ideas and printables out there. I'm not saying there aren't. I even admire people who take the time and thought to create them. I just needed a reminder that the best thing our family needed this week had nothing to do with paper and ink. My children needed parents who had studied the gospel in advance, and an enthusiastic, informal discussion.

*For family study on Sunday, we shared what happened in our church classes, then read a story from The Ensign. (Before this year, I never would have thought to count a story from a church magazine as scripture. It turns out the kids love it.)
**This week, we will reread a few verses each following day, and have discussions or activities specific to those verses on those days.

Saturday, January 19, 2019

January Home Preschool Plan

When it comes to preschool at home, I like a little structure, but not too much. For Q (my fifth-born) I've set a theme for the month and letter of the week plans, but haven't overly scheduled when we read which book and which days we do the various enrichment activities.
Here are a few of the things we are doing (along with a peek at the preschool spread in my bullet journal).

January Theme: Winter and Snow

Our Weekday Routine

Since last summer, Q has been accustomed to the idea of having a simple morning checklist: eat breakfast, use the toilet, and get dressed (in whatever order he was in the mood for). He knew he had to do those three things before he could ask for his little bit of daily electronics time. Around two months ago, I added "book with Mom" to his checklist, as I felt we weren't spontaneously reading enough. Now he is four, and has had over six months to get used to the idea of daily expectations, so I felt comfortable expanding on it slightly. His new morning checklist is:
  • Use the toilet
  • Dress himself
  • Eat breakfast
  • Book
  • Desk activity (i.e.-scissor practice, writing, sequencing cards, etc.)
For the first few days, he accepted the additional expectation with curiosity. Then for a few days he complained about it, but I held firm: the whole checklist had to be complete before he was allowed any electronics time. Now he has accepted it, and will request it before choosing a book to read.
Below you can see the habit tracker I made for his morning checklist, along with a place for me to track how many accident-free days he has this month.

The Books

Picture books are the joy and the core of our preschool. Where we live, January is typically when we get our first big snow (though it seems late coming this year).
The first two books on this list are children's classics: first the story of a tractor trailer snowplow named Katy who works hard and rescues the city. My little engineers love the maps in the book. Next we experience a snow day through the eyes of a young boy in The Snowy Day.
Then we begin the beautiful modern classics. Poetic without rhyming, Kevin Henkes new series about the seasons of the year are sumptuously illustrated. Once we discovered that mommy and daddy cardinal were hidden on almost every spread, Winter Is Here became our newest "I Spy" book.
We learn what animals are doing in the winter through the poetic Shh! Bears Sleeping, and Over and Under the Snow. I like that I am not only teaching him that bears and some animals hibernate, but also that some other animals don't.
Perhaps it is redundant to have a second book about plowing, but my little boy loves vehicles, so when I saw the beautiful colors and the rhyming text in Good Morning, Snowplow! I wrapped it up for Christmas.
Lastly, I help him learn about the scriptures and making good choices by reading selections from The Friend magazine. My monthly favorite is the retold scripture story illustrated by April Stott (pictured above).

  • Katy and the Big Snow, by Virginia Lee Burton
  • The Snowy Day, by Ezra Jack Keates
  • Winter Is Here, by Kevin Henkes
  • Shh! Bears Sleeping by David Martin
  • Over and Under the Snow by Kate Messner and Christopher Silas Neal
  • Good Morning, Snowplow! by Deborah Bruss
  • The Friend, Jr. (plus pages 20-21)
I left space in the journal underneath each book to tally how many times we read each book. Some mornings I will choose which book we read, but often he will. I keep some of these, along with a couple other favorites, easily accessible in his room. Many of our other books are up on a shelf, waiting for their turn to be loved again.

Scriptures to Learn by Heart

To go along with our letter-of-the-week (see below) I have scriptures to learn with him. I choose one selection to focus on that week. I will read the scripture to him and encourage him to repeat it. When he does, I color in one of the hearts I drew to the left of the scriptures in the bullet journal.

  • Kk "God is the King of all the earth." Psalm 77:7
  • Ll "Love one another," John 15:12
  • Mm "My heart is glad," Psalm 16:9
  • Nn "Noah built an ark," Moses 7:43

Learning Letters

I've chosen to do a letter of the week, but only have up to three activities for each letter. My main theme remains "winter and snow." I just want to spend enough time with each letter that he learns the basic handwriting strokes and gets some practice recognizing the sounds in words.
Since his co-op preschool wrapped up in December with the letter J, our January letters will be K, L, M, and N. 

Each letter has three activities to do (on three different days): write it on chalkboard, write it on paper, and do an initial sound recognition activity (i.e.-which starts with the sound /k/: kite or window?).
I've used Handwriting Without Tears materials for many of my children in preschool and kindergarten, and was surprised to realize I must have let go of my official little chalkboard. I bought an inexpensive replacement at Hobby Lobby. The idea is to first show the child how to write the capital letter, letting it take up the whole space in the little chalkboard. Then you hand them a wet cotton swab to erase your work, encouraging them to start in the same place (usually upper left corner), and trace to erase. Then they turn over the cotton swab to trace-erase it with the dry side. Once they have completed erasing, they will see a clean pathway on their chalkboard to guide them as they write their own letter. This technique is called "wet-dry-try," and is quite effective with young children.
I don't have a workbook for the days where he writes a letter on paper. He just barely turned four, and I am emphasizing quality (correct strokes) over quantity, and it seems a little silly to buy a workbook when I only expect him to write the letter once or twice (after he watches me write one as a model). In the past I have sometimes used an index card or cut-down computer paper so that there is less wasted space.

Music

We have three songs this month. Our more "serious" music appreciation song is listening to "Fossils," from Carnival of the Animals, by Camille Saint-Saens. It's actually written for young children, and is an excellent instrumental piece for them. I will periodically ask Alexa to play the song for us.
Then there are two songs to go along with our study of the scriptures at home and at church. We are beginning our study of the New Testament this year, so "Tell Me the Stories of Jesus" and "I'm Trying to Be Like Jesus" are the two I've chosen to focus on this month. Sometimes we will sing a song together. Sometimes I'll see him playing quietly and play the music from my phone for him to appreciate passively.
We were also really looking forward to attending a children's "Lollipop Concert," but the tickets sold out, so we didn't get to do that.


Scissor Skills and Other Activities

Now that he is four, I've decided it's time to work on scissor skills. I keep the scissors and some strips of construction paper out of sight in his closet, and only get them down as a desk activity that I sit and supervise. The biggest challenge right now is to get him in the habit of holding the scissors the correct side up. I gently correct him every time, and he is getting better. The lines down the middle of the strips of paper proved more difficult than I expected them to, so I count it as growth to watch him studiously cut the strip of paper into confetti.
There are some cute books out there to practice scissor skills, but for now he just needs practice opening and closing the scissors. 


I also made a list of "Activities," which includes an outing, simple snow-themed crafts, developmental activities (like spreading peanut butter on bread by himself), and sequencing cards. I inherited a very old box with colorful cards to sequence. Rather than introduce him to all of them at once, this month I will get out the building a snowman set a few times, and have him sort them in the correct order. This is important as both an early math activity and an early literacy activity.



Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Our Family Study Schedule for "Come, Follow Me"

"It's so open-ended! What do we do?"
Exasperated and bewildered, my husband and I were attempting to reach an agreement for how we would approach Sundays, Family Home Evening, and scripture study in 2019.
As we flipped through a copy of the New Testament manual for home, it felt like trying to draw a map through a cloud. We could do anything, anyway we wanted. What could be easier than knowing what we want? What could be harder?
It didn't help that the nebulous ideas forming in my head were at odds with those my wonderful husband came up with. With so few guidelines to default to, we had to have an actual discussion with listening, persuasion, and decision making.
As we looked through the manual, we realized there just weren't enough chapters and discussion points to play the one-a-day game like we've done through years of Book of Mormon study. What were we supposed to do? We didn't want to plow through it all on Sunday or Monday. How were they supposed to contribute to their Sunday school lessons six or seven days later?
We finally settled on a structured, yet flexible plan that covered Sundays, a Monday Family Home Evening, the assigned reading and discussions, and what to do on weeks where we finished the week's assignments before the week was done.

Our Family's "Come, Follow Me" Home Study Schedule


SUNDAY


  • Share church discussions at home.
  • Recognize and praise those who did personal study in the past week
  • (Invite sharing from personal studies)
  • Select what 4-year old Q will be taught this week, selecting junior resources as needed
  • Select a scripture or song to practice daily this week
  • Read aloud a story from The Friend
  • Family Council
  • (Some weeks we may play a game as a family)

MONDAY: FAMILY HOME EVENING

  • Song
  • Prayer
  • Begin the week's reading and discussion
  • Object Lesson or Special Activity
  • Treat

TUESDAY AND ONWARD

  • Read and discuss one section from the manual each day until the week's reading is complete
  • Repeat the week's verse or sing the week's song

REMAINING DAYS

  • Read aloud from any of the following:
  • The Ensign
  • General Conference talks
  • Or study from
  • Bible Dictionary or Topical Guide
What is your family's plan for the new year?

Sunday, November 18, 2018

A Chilly, Child-Swapping Temple Day in Philadelphia

We could see the skyscrapers of Philadelphia when we noticed it: isolated clumps of gray snow on the shoulder of the freeway. Southeast Pennsylvania had enjoyed some snow earlier that week, and while it was warm enough that most of it had melted, it was also cold enough that not all of it had melted.

Traffic wasn't in our favor, so we pulled into the underground parking garage shortly after the 10:00 session began.  After donning coats and informing me he would be back at 1:45 my valiant husband took the five children up the elevator to the "arrival center" building. His mission: to entertain the five children at the nearby Franklin Institute so I could have some time in the temple.
I took the central elevator straight up to the temple entrance to luxuriate in 3 1/2 hours of peaceful pondering and temple work.
At 1:45-ish, I took that same elevator back down to P2. As soon as the doors into the parking garage opened, I heard the familiar, obnoxious sound of one of my children pretending to vomit. Sure enough, my family was making its way across the parking garage to the van just in front of me. My 3-year old was the first to notice me, and happily walked with me over to the van. The children started clambering inside (not that we were going anywhere yet), while my husband tied his tie and pulled on his suit coat that had been hanging in the far back of the van.
Cory gave me a parting kiss, then carried his temple bag to the central elevator, and I turned to face five children who were ready for a late lunch (Dad had fed them popcorn). With coats back on, we decided to try our luck at the 7-11 a block away.
We walked out of the shelter of the "arrival center" and into the chilly wind blowing down the street. Not sufficiently cold, the children prodded and kicked every patch of dirty snow along our path.
At a four-way stop the children clustered back together and a considerate driver waved us across.
I had never before been in a convenience store with an L-shaped layout. We had to squeeze past the line at the checkout to see what our options were. The most promising option was 2 slices of pizza for $2. When the line cleared out, the cashier came over to help us. He pointed out that a full pizza (8 slices) was $5.55, so we ordered that instead. While it was baking, I generously encouraged the children to get a small hot chocolate ($1 each). My high schoolers sensibly started filling their own cocoa cups, while my younger children pleaded for slurpees. I thought it was foolish, but we believe in allowing the children opportunities to make choices and experience consequences, so I just reminded them of how cold it was outside, and allowed them the option of a small slurpee instead.
When we purchased the food and stepped outside, the chilly wind began chasing us down the street. My 3-year old clutched his prized slurpee and shivered. There was no way I was carrying a pizza while helping the children cross all the busy streets it would take to arrive at the lunchroom tucked inside the Franklin Institute. I gave them the option of either eating in the park or in the van. It was unanimous, so we hurried as discreetly to the elevator as a family of seven carrying a pizza and drinks in the temple courtyard possibly can.
After eating, we gathered up the trash in the van to save for the first rest area we would encounter on the drive home. Then we went up to the surface and walked briskly down Vine Street, noticing at least one father in a dress shirt taking his young children into the Free Library of Philadelphia. It's fun recognizing families out in town that you've recently seen at the temple.
The high school boys promised to stay with each other and meet us by the enormous statue of Benjamin Franklin at a given time. The rest of us got downstairs just in time for a planetarium showing. I let my middle schoolers go in together, with instructions to find me in the adjacent train exhibit as soon as it was done. Then little Q and I spent a happy half hour building an enormous train track.
We met up successfully and made it back to the parking garage about 20 minutes before I expected us to, which allowed us to leave almost as soon as Cory (who had remembered to validate our parking ticket) came down. We left the Philadelphia around 4:30 and it was dark before we were in Delaware.  For our first half hour, we discussed our pondering and impressions for the day, and navigated our complicated route out of the city and onto Delaware 1.
I read to Cory most of the way home. We finished Mary Poppins and got a good start on Sun and Moon, Ice and Snow, by Jessica Day George. The kids mostly watched shows we had downloaded to our tablets, but T prepared his lesson for today, and Q napped for over an hour.
We were reminded our family was responsible for the sacrament bread, so when we stopped for gas, we also bought a loaf of bread.
When we pulled into our driveway a little after midnight, the three children in the middle row were all asleep. We nudged the older ones awake and carried the youngest in. By the time we had brought in all the luggage, all of the children were asleep in their beds.
Another successful temple weekend. Lots of driving, not too bad on sleep, and no regrets.

2 Hour Church = 1 Hour Primary

As a member of my ward's Primary presidency, I was eager to see how the new two-hour church schedule would affect Primary.
In a sense, there will be nothing new (during the Sunday block). There will actually be less (for example, no more Sharing Time).
The most dramatic thing I noticed about the new schedule is how it shifted the proportion of time spent in different areas.
To me, the new proportions emphasize three very important things:

  1. Taking the sacrament. Even young children who ignore the speakers take notice of the sacrament. The entire sacrament meeting will be half of a child (or adult's) church worship experience.
  2. Singing Time. As you can see in the circle chart I made, learning and singing gospel songs is nearly a quarter of a child's church experience each Sunday. (The chart I made includes the 5 minute opening with singing time, but there are several songs sung in sacrament meeting to balance that). For many children, the gospel is best learned through music. Music has a power to touch hearts in a way that lectures cannot. Gospel songs are also more likely to be hummed and remembered into the week. In fact, once a song is thoroughly learned, its power can unexpectedly reenter a person's life years in the future.
  3. Class time. A 20 minute class is superior to a 20 minute sharing time in many ways. By being in a small class setting, young children are more likely to feel the love of their teachers, have opportunities to participate, and therefore pay better attention.
What are your thoughts about these changes?