Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Simple Success with a Come, Follow Me Family Home Evening

Sunday afternoon, my husband and I each read John 1 for our personal study.*
I also spent a long time online studying suggestions from other families and considering pre-made printables.
When I finished the day, the "Family Home Evening" box in my planner was still blank.
On Monday there was a sewing project to finish, lots of laundry, plus some MLK Day sales to take advantage of. When dinner time rolled around, I still hadn't printed anything cute. It was my daughter's turn to help with treat, and she was busy making cake mix cookies (to be filled with lemon pie filling). That was pretty much it. We were going to have to "wing it."
So we called the whole family in, and reminded them of expectations (stay sitting in this room until we're done; no electronics use unless you're looking up scriptures) and began. Without a "plan."
Well, glancing at the manual, we decided to start by explaining who John was, and what happened in this week's chapter. Having already (recently) read it ourselves, my husband and I felt comfortable with the material. This time, instead of reading that section straight out of the manual (which I had also familiarized myself with), my husband and I started to explain who John was in our own words. He would say something, and then I would say something. We encouraged questions or relevant comments from the children.
It felt very natural, like a dialogue.
Then everyone in the family helped us read John 1 out loud.**
We knelt for prayers.
Then my daughter served the treat she had made.
That was it. A simple, unadorned attempt to teach our family the gospel. The funny thing was: it felt like one of our most successful family nights.

It reminded my of something I had hear Elder Bednar say some time ago. After describing an unstructured family home evening based on gospel discussion and spontaneous sharing of testimonies, he said, "The best family home evenings are not necessarily the product of preprepared, purchased, or downloaded packets of outlines and visual aids."
"Watching with All Perseverance," Elder David A. Bednar, April 2010

There are many wonderful ideas and printables out there. I'm not saying there aren't. I even admire people who take the time and thought to create them. I just needed a reminder that the best thing our family needed this week had nothing to do with paper and ink. My children needed parents who had studied the gospel in advance, and an enthusiastic, informal discussion.

*For family study on Sunday, we shared what happened in our church classes, then read a story from The Ensign. (Before this year, I never would have thought to count a story from a church magazine as scripture. It turns out the kids love it.)
**This week, we will reread a few verses each following day, and have discussions or activities specific to those verses on those days.

Saturday, January 19, 2019

January Home Preschool Plan

When it comes to preschool at home, I like a little structure, but not too much. For Q (my fifth-born) I've set a theme for the month and letter of the week plans, but haven't overly scheduled when we read which book and which days we do the various enrichment activities.
Here are a few of the things we are doing (along with a peek at the preschool spread in my bullet journal).

January Theme: Winter and Snow

Our Weekday Routine

Since last summer, Q has been accustomed to the idea of having a simple morning checklist: eat breakfast, use the toilet, and get dressed (in whatever order he was in the mood for). He knew he had to do those three things before he could ask for his little bit of daily electronics time. Around two months ago, I added "book with Mom" to his checklist, as I felt we weren't spontaneously reading enough. Now he is four, and has had over six months to get used to the idea of daily expectations, so I felt comfortable expanding on it slightly. His new morning checklist is:
  • Use the toilet
  • Dress himself
  • Eat breakfast
  • Book
  • Desk activity (i.e.-scissor practice, writing, sequencing cards, etc.)
For the first few days, he accepted the additional expectation with curiosity. Then for a few days he complained about it, but I held firm: the whole checklist had to be complete before he was allowed any electronics time. Now he has accepted it, and will request it before choosing a book to read.
Below you can see the habit tracker I made for his morning checklist, along with a place for me to track how many accident-free days he has this month.

The Books

Picture books are the joy and the core of our preschool. Where we live, January is typically when we get our first big snow (though it seems late coming this year).
The first two books on this list are children's classics: first the story of a tractor trailer snowplow named Katy who works hard and rescues the city. My little engineers love the maps in the book. Next we experience a snow day through the eyes of a young boy in The Snowy Day.
Then we begin the beautiful modern classics. Poetic without rhyming, Kevin Henkes new series about the seasons of the year are sumptuously illustrated. Once we discovered that mommy and daddy cardinal were hidden on almost every spread, Winter Is Here became our newest "I Spy" book.
We learn what animals are doing in the winter through the poetic Shh! Bears Sleeping, and Over and Under the Snow. I like that I am not only teaching him that bears and some animals hibernate, but also that some other animals don't.
Perhaps it is redundant to have a second book about plowing, but my little boy loves vehicles, so when I saw the beautiful colors and the rhyming text in Good Morning, Snowplow! I wrapped it up for Christmas.
Lastly, I help him learn about the scriptures and making good choices by reading selections from The Friend magazine. My monthly favorite is the retold scripture story illustrated by April Stott (pictured above).

  • Katy and the Big Snow, by Virginia Lee Burton
  • The Snowy Day, by Ezra Jack Keates
  • Winter Is Here, by Kevin Henkes
  • Shh! Bears Sleeping by David Martin
  • Over and Under the Snow by Kate Messner and Christopher Silas Neal
  • Good Morning, Snowplow! by Deborah Bruss
  • The Friend, Jr. (plus pages 20-21)
I left space in the journal underneath each book to tally how many times we read each book. Some mornings I will choose which book we read, but often he will. I keep some of these, along with a couple other favorites, easily accessible in his room. Many of our other books are up on a shelf, waiting for their turn to be loved again.

Scriptures to Learn by Heart

To go along with our letter-of-the-week (see below) I have scriptures to learn with him. I choose one selection to focus on that week. I will read the scripture to him and encourage him to repeat it. When he does, I color in one of the hearts I drew to the left of the scriptures in the bullet journal.

  • Kk "God is the King of all the earth." Psalm 77:7
  • Ll "Love one another," John 15:12
  • Mm "My heart is glad," Psalm 16:9
  • Nn "Noah built an ark," Moses 7:43

Learning Letters

I've chosen to do a letter of the week, but only have up to three activities for each letter. My main theme remains "winter and snow." I just want to spend enough time with each letter that he learns the basic handwriting strokes and gets some practice recognizing the sounds in words.
Since his co-op preschool wrapped up in December with the letter J, our January letters will be K, L, M, and N. 

Each letter has three activities to do (on three different days): write it on chalkboard, write it on paper, and do an initial sound recognition activity (i.e.-which starts with the sound /k/: kite or window?).
I've used Handwriting Without Tears materials for many of my children in preschool and kindergarten, and was surprised to realize I must have let go of my official little chalkboard. I bought an inexpensive replacement at Hobby Lobby. The idea is to first show the child how to write the capital letter, letting it take up the whole space in the little chalkboard. Then you hand them a wet cotton swab to erase your work, encouraging them to start in the same place (usually upper left corner), and trace to erase. Then they turn over the cotton swab to trace-erase it with the dry side. Once they have completed erasing, they will see a clean pathway on their chalkboard to guide them as they write their own letter. This technique is called "wet-dry-try," and is quite effective with young children.
I don't have a workbook for the days where he writes a letter on paper. He just barely turned four, and I am emphasizing quality (correct strokes) over quantity, and it seems a little silly to buy a workbook when I only expect him to write the letter once or twice (after he watches me write one as a model). In the past I have sometimes used an index card or cut-down computer paper so that there is less wasted space.

Music

We have three songs this month. Our more "serious" music appreciation song is listening to "Fossils," from Carnival of the Animals, by Camille Saint-Saens. It's actually written for young children, and is an excellent instrumental piece for them. I will periodically ask Alexa to play the song for us.
Then there are two songs to go along with our study of the scriptures at home and at church. We are beginning our study of the New Testament this year, so "Tell Me the Stories of Jesus" and "I'm Trying to Be Like Jesus" are the two I've chosen to focus on this month. Sometimes we will sing a song together. Sometimes I'll see him playing quietly and play the music from my phone for him to appreciate passively.
We were also really looking forward to attending a children's "Lollipop Concert," but the tickets sold out, so we didn't get to do that.


Scissor Skills and Other Activities

Now that he is four, I've decided it's time to work on scissor skills. I keep the scissors and some strips of construction paper out of sight in his closet, and only get them down as a desk activity that I sit and supervise. The biggest challenge right now is to get him in the habit of holding the scissors the correct side up. I gently correct him every time, and he is getting better. The lines down the middle of the strips of paper proved more difficult than I expected them to, so I count it as growth to watch him studiously cut the strip of paper into confetti.
There are some cute books out there to practice scissor skills, but for now he just needs practice opening and closing the scissors. 


I also made a list of "Activities," which includes an outing, simple snow-themed crafts, developmental activities (like spreading peanut butter on bread by himself), and sequencing cards. I inherited a very old box with colorful cards to sequence. Rather than introduce him to all of them at once, this month I will get out the building a snowman set a few times, and have him sort them in the correct order. This is important as both an early math activity and an early literacy activity.



Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Our Family Study Schedule for "Come, Follow Me"

"It's so open-ended! What do we do?"
Exasperated and bewildered, my husband and I were attempting to reach an agreement for how we would approach Sundays, Family Home Evening, and scripture study in 2019.
As we flipped through a copy of the New Testament manual for home, it felt like trying to draw a map through a cloud. We could do anything, anyway we wanted. What could be easier than knowing what we want? What could be harder?
It didn't help that the nebulous ideas forming in my head were at odds with those my wonderful husband came up with. With so few guidelines to default to, we had to have an actual discussion with listening, persuasion, and decision making.
As we looked through the manual, we realized there just weren't enough chapters and discussion points to play the one-a-day game like we've done through years of Book of Mormon study. What were we supposed to do? We didn't want to plow through it all on Sunday or Monday. How were they supposed to contribute to their Sunday school lessons six or seven days later?
We finally settled on a structured, yet flexible plan that covered Sundays, a Monday Family Home Evening, the assigned reading and discussions, and what to do on weeks where we finished the week's assignments before the week was done.

Our Family's "Come, Follow Me" Home Study Schedule


SUNDAY


  • Share church discussions at home.
  • Recognize and praise those who did personal study in the past week
  • (Invite sharing from personal studies)
  • Select what 4-year old Q will be taught this week, selecting junior resources as needed
  • Select a scripture or song to practice daily this week
  • Read aloud a story from The Friend
  • Family Council
  • (Some weeks we may play a game as a family)

MONDAY: FAMILY HOME EVENING

  • Song
  • Prayer
  • Begin the week's reading and discussion
  • Object Lesson or Special Activity
  • Treat

TUESDAY AND ONWARD

  • Read and discuss one section from the manual each day until the week's reading is complete
  • Repeat the week's verse or sing the week's song

REMAINING DAYS

  • Read aloud from any of the following:
  • The Ensign
  • General Conference talks
  • Or study from
  • Bible Dictionary or Topical Guide
What is your family's plan for the new year?